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In their second and third years of life, then, boys decisively will turn away from their mother. They de-identify with what she is. But their pulling away, their protective shield, may involve a number of anti-female defenses. And so it may be that the price males pay for de-identification is a disdain, a contempt, sometimes even a hatred for women, a disowning of the “feminine” parts of themselves and an enduring fear of intimacy because it undermines the separation upon which their male identity has been founded.

Fiction Writing Prompt: Write the story of a man whose protective shield blocks him from having any meaningful relationships.

Journaling Prompt: Write about a man you know who can’t identify with the feminine aspects of his being. How does that affect his relationships?

Art Prompt: De-Identification with Mom

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Tell your audience why de-identification with your parents is important and give them strategies for making sure that they have a healthy relationship with all aspects of themselves.

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