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“I’m so sorry.”

As the words slipped from Jane’s mouth, another blue Line of Apology on her arm disappeared in a searing–but brief–slice of pain. She only had ten Apology Lines left. Most people her age had blue streaks marking their arms all the way to shoulder. –Apology Accepted by Kathryn Felice Board

Fiction Writing Prompt: Create a world where empathy is a real, but limited power. How will your protagonist use it?

Journaling Prompt: Write about the best and worst apologies you’ve ever recieved.

Art Prompt: I’m so sorry

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Tell your audience how to apologize properly.

Photo Credit: bronx. on Flickr

Guilt

“When people feel guilt about a specific behavior, they experience tension, remorse, and regret,” the researchers write. “Research has shown that this sense of tension and regret typically motivates reparative action — confessing, apologizing, or somehow repairing the damage done.”
Feelings of shame, on the other hand, involve a painful feeling directed toward the self. For some people, feelings of shame lead to a defensive response, a denial of responsibility, and a need to blame others — a process that can lead to aggression.
Tangney and her colleagues interviewed over 470 inmates, asking them about their feelings of guilt, shame, and externalization of blame soon after they were incarcerated. The researchers followed up with 332 of the offenders a year after they had been released, this time asking them whether they had been arrested again and whether they had committed a crime but had not been caught. They also compared the self-reported data to official arrest records.
Overall, expressions of guilt and shame were associated with recidivism rates, but in different ways.
“Proneness to guilt predicts less recidivism — a lower likelihood of re-offense,” Tangney says. That is, the more inclined an inmate is to feel guilt, the less likely he or she is to re-offend.
The implications of proneness to shame, on the other hand, were more complex.
Inmates inclined to feel shame, and who were also defensive and blameful of others, were more likely to slip back into crime. Inmates who were shameful but who didn’tblame others were less likely to end up in jail again. –Science Daily

Fiction Writing Prompt: Write a story about a criminal. Include inner monologue that illuminates the shame / guilt he or she feels. Show how it drives the criminal’s actions in the story.

Journaling Prompt: Write about something that you feel shameful about. How can you move past this painful feeling?

Art Prompt: Guilt and shame

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Inform your audience about the difference between guilt and shame. Include how they influence behavior.

Photo Credit: h.koppdelaney on Flickr

Joshua addresses Noah's behavior at the beach

Researchers wrote that “making amends can facilitative forgiveness, but not all amends can fully compensate for offenses.” Apology may be needed to repair damage fully, but it may be a “silent forgiveness,” while restitution without apology may lead to a “hollow forgiveness” in which the offenders are treated better but not necessarily forgiven.

“The results suggest that if transgressors seek both psychological and interpersonal forgiveness from their victims, they must pair their apologies with restitution,” they wrote. “Apparently, actions and words speak loudest in concert.” –Science Daily

Fiction Writing Prompt: Write a scene between characters who have both offended against each other who struggle to find forgiveness.

Journaling Prompt: Write about your experience with forgiveness, apologies, and restitution.

Art Prompt: Forgiveness

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Inform your audience about how to apologize.

Photo Credit: Sherif Salama on Flickr

In a Duke University study out November 22, researchers found that pre-teen girls may not be any better at friendships than boys, despite previous research suggesting otherwise. The findings suggest that when more serious violations of a friendship occur, girls struggle just as much and, in some ways, even more than boys.

The girls in this study were just as likely as boys to report that they would seek revenge against an offending friend, verbally attack the friend and threaten to end the friendship when their expectations were violated, such as telling one of their secrets to other children.

The girls also reported they were more bothered by the transgressions, felt more anger and sadness, and were more likely to think the offense meant their friend did not care about them or was trying to control them…

“Our finding that girls would be just as vengeful and aggressive toward their friends as the boys is particularly interesting because past research has consistently shown boys to react more negatively following minor conflicts with friends, such as an argument about which game to play next,” Asher said. “It appears that friendship transgressions and conflicts of interest may push different buttons for boys and girls.”

The study found that anger and sadness played significant roles in how boys and girls reacted to offending friends. For both genders, the more strongly they felt a friend had devalued them or was trying to control them, the more anger and sadness they felt.

The angrier they felt, the less likely they wanted to fix the relationship. But feelings of sadness actually motivated both genders toward reconciliation: The more sadness the children reported feeling, the stronger their desire was to want to solve the problem and maintain the friendship.

Sadness, the authors said, can sometimes function like “social glue” that holds relationships together. –Science Daily

Writing Prompt: Write a scene about betrayal of friendship involving pre-teen girls.

Journaling Prompt: Write about a childhood friend who betrayed your trust and friendship.

Art Prompt: Girlfriends

Nonfiction / Speech Writing Prompt: Write about betrayal in pre-teen girls

Photo Credit: Dottie Mae on Flickr

Welcome to the Carnival of Creativity for January 29, 2012. I can’t believe the month is almost over! Seems like it screamed past. Enjoy today’s delicious links. They will open in a new tab, so that you can enjoy, comment, and then return here for your next helping.

The Creative Mindset

Matthew Hyde presents What’s the Point of Blogging? posted at Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth, saying, “Some encouragement for any struggling bloggers out there!”

Amyra Mah presents Unleashing Creativity Without Using Drugs posted at The Amyra Records.

Sharing Our Work

Sweet Mother presents Making Reality posted at Sweet Mother, saying, “Humorous fast fiction.”

Lori-ann presents MLK posted at MoreFire. (I amost didn’t include this one because it is difficult to read due to font color and lack of paragraphs, but it’s worth the effort.)

Podcasts

What a treat I have for you today. Dan Wells (I Am Not A Serial Killer and Mr. Monster) gives you everything you need to know to structure your story in this 6 part video series.

Writing Quote of the Week

“We write to heighten our own awareness of life. We write to lure and enchant and console others. We write to serenade our lovers. We write to taste life twice, in the moment, and in retrospection. We write to render all of it eternal, and to persuade ourselves that it is eternal. We write to be able to transcend our life, to reach beyond it. We write to teach ourselves to speak with others, to record the journey into the labyrinth… When I don’t write, I feel my world shrinking. I feel I am in a prison. I feel I lose my fire and my color. It should be a necessity, as the sea needs to heave, and I call it breathing.” – Anais Nin

Spam of the Week

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That’s all for this week. Be sure to submit your article for next week’s Carnival of Creativity by Friday at midnight!
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