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Geez, it’s amazing how guys always use sports analogies when it comes to anything remotely sexual. –Chill Run by Russell Brooks

Fiction Writing Prompt: Do your male characters use sports analogies? Write a scene where they do.

Journaling Prompt: What sports analogy do you find most appropriate? Most offensive?

Art Prompt: Sports and sex

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Tell your audience a humorous theory about why men use sports analogies to talk about sex.

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William Brooke, Lord Cobham, with his wife, Frances Newton, her sister, and the couple's children

“[e]volutionary biologists believe that sexual variety is adaptive, and that it evolved to prevent incest and inbreeding in ancestral environments. The idea is that when our spouse becomes as familiar to us as a sibling—when we’ve become family—we cease to be sexually attracted to each other.” – Sonja Lyubomirsky, New York Times

Fiction Writing Prompt: Write a story or scene about a loveless marriage. How do the characters avoid the trap talked about above?

Journaling Prompt: Write about your relationship with your spouse.

Art Prompt: Attraction

Non-Fiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Write about how to keep the attraction in a marriage.

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“There are two ways you can make an error as a man,” says Perilloux. “Either you think, ‘Oh, wow, that woman’s really interested in me’ — and it turns out she’s not. There’s some cost to that,” such as embarrassment or a blow to your reputation. The other error: “She’s interested, and he totally misses out. He misses out on a mating opportunity. That’s a huge cost in terms of reproductive success.” The researchers theorize that the kind of guy who went for it, even at the risk of being rebuffed, scored more often — and passed on his overperceiving tendency to his genetic heirs. The casual sex seekers “face slightly different adaptive problems,” says Perilloux. “They are limited mainly by the number of consenting sex partners — so overestimation is even more important.” Only the actually attractive men probably had no need for misperception.

The research contains some messages for daters of both sexes, says Perilloux: Women should know the risks and “be as communicative and clear as possible.” Men: “Know that the more attracted you are, the more likely you are to be wrong about her interest.” Again, that may not be as bad as it sounds, she says — “if warning them will prevent heartache later on.” –Science Daily

Writing Prompt: Write a scene or story about speed dating from the point of view of a man.

Journaling Prompt: Write about a dating experience where you misread the intentions of your date.

Art Prompt: Speed Dating
Nonfiction / Speechwriting Prompt: Tell a humorous story about a date you went on.

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Men may think about sex more often than women do, but a new study suggests that men also think about other biological needs, such as eating and sleep, more frequently than women do, as well.

And the research discredits the persistent stereotype that men think about sex every seven seconds, which would amount to more than 8,000 thoughts about sex in 16 waking hours. In the study, the median number of young men’s thought about sex stood at almost 19 times per day. Young women in the study reported a median of nearly 10 thoughts about sex per day.

As a group, the men also thought about food almost 18 times per day and sleep almost 11 times per day, compared to women’s median number of thoughts about eating and sleep, at nearly 15 times and about 8 1/2 times, respectively.

“Since we looked at those other types of need-related thoughts, we found that it appears that there’s not just a sex difference with regard to thoughts about sex, but also with regard to thoughts about sleep and food,” she said. “That’s very significant. This suggests males might be having more of these thoughts than women are or they have an easier time identifying the thoughts. It’s difficult to know, but what is clear is it’s not uniquely sex that they’re spending more time thinking about, but other issues related to their biological needs, as well.” –Science Daily

Writing Prompt: Write a scene from two points of view – male and female. Include inner monologue.

Journaling Prompt: How often do you find yourself thinking about basic needs? Which do you think about most frequently?

Art Prompt: What are you thinking about?

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iconic void

If you’re writing about teens, consider including music in your story.

The amount of music that 8- to 18-year-olds listen to has increased by 45 percent in recent years, rising dramatically with the popularity of MP3 players, such as iPods. Previous research has indicated that there is a strong link between exposure to sexual media (on screen and in music) and sexual activity. Teens tend to overestimate the sexual activity of their peers and one source of this misperception is the entertainment media. –Science Daily

Writing Prompt: Write a scene about a teenager listening to music. What do the lyrics mean to him or her? What thoughts arise? What actions do the lyrics prompt?

Journaling Prompt: How does music and the lyrics affect you?

Art Prompt: Music

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